Which place is the most suitable place for the old man to live in? Is it my own home, returning to the country, or staying in the filial piety room of a man? Huang Yuqing, a retired teacher in his 80s, chose to move to the "Safety Hospital" with his husband at the age of 67. He lived there for more than 10 years and his life continued to accumulate.
Anyuan is located in Muzha Mountain area. The environment is quiet. When the gentleman came here and saw it, he realized it was his last "home".
{However, when Huang Yuqing was moved in, she was a little embarrassed. After years of changing her mood, she is now full of fun. She is like a humanist who is diligent in field investigations, writes real experiences and experiences, which also makes more people realize that it is not scary to live in a nursing home.
The age of 67 moved to Angong Hospital as a hotelHuang Yuqing was originally a teacher at the Taipei City Kaisheng School. He has been traveling around since he was young, and after retirement, he even ran out all day long. He is about 10 years older than him, and his body is still in a small illness and often stays alone at his empty home, so he can't help feeling a little disappointed.
Until one time a thief was accidental at home, Huang Yuqing finally agreed to move to the nursing home with his husband. The three daughters did not object, but she still wanted to maintain a hot life in the past and made three rules with her husband: "I treat this place as a hotel, and I will still run out and gather with colleagues and friends."
Most of the residents are of high-age ethnic group. When Huang Yuqing and his husband go out together, they are often regarded as "careful". Some people think that the two are father and daughter, but when they are in harmony with the older "elder", they feel kind-hearted, "Maybe because of their good relationship with their father, I am very accustomed to the elderly, and they love me more."
Compared to when we moved in, we went out to the contract at no cost and were too busy to communicate. In recent years, we have been reading and writing more quietly. She said, "It is the lightest time."
Before we visited, Huang Yuqing was reading the novel of Japanese mystery writer Miyabe Miyuki. She enthusiastically shared that her favorite works are the works of Keigo Tono, "I have all his novels. After watching it, I went to watch the adapted movie with my little daughter. "She went one by one, and she was also a fan of Matsumoto Kiyoshi, Tofuki Shusaku and others. She described "It's so exciting to watch others write. It doesn't have to write it yourself, it's a bit like stealing."
Anyuan is a more mature and mature life experience.Change to a local life. Not only do you have to adapt to your own mind, but you also have to deal with the curiosity and conjectures of many people.
At the beginning, she shared her stay in the nursing home with her old classmates, and she always received double sympathy. The unintentional evaluation from others also made her suffer, such as: "You just have to do food", "You don't want to do housework, right?" She took the car to report the address, and the driver also asked, "Is it because you don't have a son that you live here?" The man came to the other person and "swept cold water" in front of her, and she simply said that going to the nursing home was "seeing friends."
"Anyway, I am 80 years old, and it is different now." Now her attitude is generous. She has changed her mind after living here over the years. She still feels that the nursing home is like a "mine". She has prepared all kinds of life in advance and has made enough preparations, so she is mostly happy. Where are there any grievances?
After staying in the nursing home, she had a better relationship with her husband, and the older man was softer.She described that the husband, who is over 90 years old, recently told her with emotion: "I chose this place right, fortunately you are here." Huang Yuqing, who seemed to be jealous of freedom, suddenly felt a little moved and her expression softened.
She observed her husband, from the old man, it became easier to get along with him now, "He is more dependent on me now, and after that, his relationship is better than before. He feels nothing to say about wherever he lets me play."
The age difference between the two is a big difference, and the husband is worried a little while, Huang Yuqing's life is lonely in the future. Lingling, reminded her to make "preparation" from time to time, and always said, "If I leave one day, I will deal with me quickly, and there is no need to tell everyone."
She wanted to make her husband feel at ease through daily interactions. When she returned home from outside, she would touch her husband's head first, or pinch his arm before leaving. The long-term relationship is silent.
Surprisingly, on Huang Yuqing's birthday, the gentleman made a special suggestion and went to the fast food restaurant to have a meal and used fried chicken instead of cakes to wish her to smile every time she remembered it.
Writing in the Hospital, the diary is collected into a bookHuang Yuqing talked about the work and rest in the Hospital, "I feel that the time has increased." He picked up the notebook from time to time to write, and when he encountered various "hometowns", he would record his feelings. His diary, prose, and any books were not limited. After a certain chapter was accumulated, he printed it into a book by himself, intending to let his friends and family remember it.
Unexpectedly, this "record" was passed to the editor of the publisher, which was a big surprise, which led to her publishing the collection "The Old Man of a Group: My 3,000 Days in Silver Village, Taipei". For her, writing is not just a habit, but also a function of "revising emotions": "Now if you are not happy or sad, you will relax your emotions after writing them, as fast as you dance a dance."
Huang Yuqing especially likes walking, "Every time I walk back I feel refreshed. "She has been practicing sitting up since she was 30 years old, "I have 36 tricks. Now, no matter how busy she is, she has to exercise and train muscles." She practices 20 minutes of energy every morning. When I was having a party with my old friends in recent years, I also found that my physical and mental state was indeed healthier than many of my colleagues.
"I am more beautiful and like to learn new things." She said with some embarrassment that she recently went to register the performance courses of old Taiwanese songs. After class, she often practiced in the room. She sang a section of Dunli's "Some Sorrows" on the stage: "The small building was in the east again last night, so the country was unable to look back at the moonlight." No matter how much sorrow I had in the past, it seemed that it could fade away with the singing.
Huang Yuqing talked about a new dream - learning computers. She hoped to type and write her own manuscripts. In this way, she no longer had to ask a publisher to identify her handwriting word word word by word.
"When I get old, my body and heart must be healthy. I need to cultivate a hobby. For example, I will write hair pens at night, and I feel very peaceful and happy after writing." She persisted in cultivating various interests, and happiness seemed to come endlessly.
Staying in a nursing home has freedom. When she is alone, she has companionsHuang Yuqing believes that the advantage of staying in a nursing home is to maintain "freedom" and "companions", and she can also follow her own conditions. "I used to be unrestrained, and I may have met many people later, and I was slowly affected."
She saw a good friend who lived alone in a big house. She often couldn't sleep in the middle of the night and could only wake up and watch TV alone. She also saw that many people had a partner, and they gave up and interacted with each other, and always avoided talking. In contrast to myself, the gentleman was right next to him, occasionally quarreling with him, and there were many "countrymen" accompanying him, and he actually felt very happy.
Huang Yuqing often takes the initiative to pay attention to the new "country" of the hospital. A man on the same floor couldn't stop crying when he just arrived and kept saying that he "want to go home." She comforted him, "Get out more often, everyone will chat with you." The man still "closed" himself. Recently, he learned that he was not happy because of his Chinese sent to the doctor.
Huang Yuqing was moved: "I can't let go and my mind is closed. How can my body and mind be happy?"
On the contrary, she met a grandmother sitting in a wheelchair. Although she was not good at traveling, she was very careful to seize the opportunity of movement and even sat down with the chair. This force of not surrendering to life strongly infected people around her.
When she met all kinds of residents and made her feel inseparable, she was an elder who was "like a teacher". An uncle, who is 90 years old, always teaches her how unhealthy her diet is when she is serving food, which makes the atmosphere very awkward. Huang Yuqing said calmly, "I must not be like him."
Seeing that his friend's death continues to wither and strives to exercise his body and mindOver the past few years, Huang Yuqing's expression was sad and said, "I will be hard to pass up, and it's a bit like escaping." There is still no way to fight head-on. "
She had a good friend who had been transferred to her brain due to cancer. Now she was unable to recognize anyone anymore, which made her full of emotion. She motivated herself and wanted to strengthen her movements. "The body and mind will definitely embark on this road, but at least it will make this day a little later."
If one day, if you really want to stay in a nursing home, your life may not be in a bad mood, but you will just change the space! Instead, there are a lot of "textbooks" to make me have a good old man! I want to open the sea and the sky.
Original text: The child moves to the nursing home and wants to change his mood! 80-year-old retired teacher Huang Yuqing: having companionship and freedom, it is the most relaxing