Speaking of Xiao S's daughter, who do you most remember? I believe many people are most impressed by their little daughter "Xu Lao San", because of her mother's big, funny and quirky personality, and her vivid personality make many people remember her.
And when she is young, she has a precocious personality. Not only do she say that she has to open a store to make money, she will also ask her mother "how long can she get a brand-name bag", so that Xiao S can take the opportunity to educate her that "bags will not make your personality better."
Because of the child, Xiao S let go of her comparative heart
In the podcast program "My Mother's Mother", Xiao S and her mother talked about "Comparative heart". She was the first to admit that she used to like to compare with others, but since she became a mother, it seems that she has built-in "love children" skills, which has never regarded her children as a comparative person.
Whether it is between three daughters, or between children and classmates, Xiao S has never compared "Why can't you be as good as who is the same in the same class?" is what she has never told her children. She emphasized, “Because I think my children are always the most unique, in my mind, each of them is a treasure.” She said that during the growth process, if she found that her daughter could paint, she would definitely support her, “GOOD! You just do whatever you want.”
Support Xu Laosan to start a business dream, take advantage of the opportunity to educate: Everything is a virtue
It is also because of the unconditional dream of supporting children. Xiao S shared that "Once Xu Laosan told her that she wanted to be a "boss". She discussed the details of opening a store, finding a house, and raising taxes." She was so professional that she asked Xiao S to tell her about finding a candidate to discuss with her another day.
And Xu Laosan also further said that the reason why he wanted to open a store was to make money, then buy a large house and live in it alone. Xiao S said helplessly that she was obviously very upset, but her daughter was completely opposite to her. As a result, some comments were complained that Mother S was too restricted and thought that the little S period was too excessive.
But Xiao S explained that she was not restraining herself, but thought that she should not buy anything that she could not use. She even mentioned that she was asked by the third child, "Mom, how old should I get to get a brand-name bag?" Xiao S replied, "Do you think your whole personality will be better because of this bag?"
When the child was still young, the establishment of value was basically based on his parents' gifts, and he might be more or less affected by his classmates when he entered school, but how to guide and correct him depends on how his parents communicate. My third brother can have precocious entrepreneurial ideas at the age of 9, maybe just like our children. It is pure and lovely. The positive encouragement given by the parents can encourage children to have a dream.
But I still understand the pursuit of material fame and fortune. Just like Xiao S, I can ask the child how different these materials can make his current life different. Then I use the child's answers to give appropriate feedback. Through each question and answer, I can train the child's independent thinking and make the family understand better.
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